Shyama Mathew: Sexual Wellness: Myths, Misconceptions, and How to Own Your Health

In a world where conversations about sexual health and wellness are often shrouded in shame and misinformation, it's time to break down the walls. Dr. Shayama Mathews, a board-certified OBGYN, delves into the questions surrounding sexual health that many are too afraid to ask. From lubricants to communication in relationships, they touched on key aspects of maintaining a healthy sex life.

Rethinking Lubricants

One of the first topics explored was the evolution of personal lubricants. While most people are familiar with products like K-Y Jelly, these often contain ingredients that many wouldn't consider using in their daily skincare or beauty routines. Dr. Matthews discussed his collaboration with Playground, a company dedicated to creating lubricants that prioritize women's health. Unlike mainstream options that are packed with parabens, sulfates, and phthalates—ingredients known to be harmful—Playground products are designed with a woman's microbiome in mind, ensuring the formula is non-toxic and supportive of vaginal health. The focus isn't just on effectiveness but on creating an enjoyable experience. With pleasant scents, non-sticky textures, and long-lasting hydration, these lubricants aim to elevate pleasure without compromising health.

Why Ingredients Matter

Dr. Matthews emphasized the importance of choosing products carefully—just as we scrutinize the ingredients in our food, skincare, and haircare, we should be just as discerning about what we put in our bodies, especially in sensitive areas. The wrong ingredients in lubricants can lead to irritation, infections, and discomfort, a reality many women have experienced. Dr. Matthews pointed out how common issues can arise when the wrong substances interact with delicate tissues, from yeast infections to UTIs.

"Why would we be so careful about the products we use on our hair or face but ignore the importance of what's inside our bodies?" he said. Playground offers a safer, fun alternative, giving women more control over their sexual experiences, free of harmful chemicals.

Busting Myths: Communication and Sexual Health

One major misconception about sexual health is that communication should be a mystery. Many individuals shy away from openly discussing their desires, often due to embarrassment or societal expectations. Dr. Matthews, however, urges people to take ownership of their sexuality. "You should be able to talk openly with your partner about what you enjoy," he explained. Maintaining mystery is fun in some situations, but honesty and clear communication can enhance pleasure for both partners in the bedroom.

Women, especially, are encouraged to understand their bodies and communicate their desires to their partners. Dr. Matthews recommends self-exploration as a way to gain confidence and understand what feels good, which ultimately improves intimacy.

The Reality of STIs and Testing

Another vital aspect of sexual health is protection and regular testing. STIs are common, yet often don't show symptoms, especially in men. Dr. Matthews shared that many women only realize they have contracted an STI when they notice irritation or abnormal discharge. He recommends that sexually active individuals, particularly those with multiple partners, get tested regularly—every few months, even if there are no visible symptoms.

"Testing isn't just about treating infections; it's about being proactive and transparent with your partner," Dr. Matthews said. He stresses that it's essential to be open about testing and to monitor one's sexual health regularly.

There are alternatives for those who may feel uncomfortable visiting an OBGYN or lack the resources, including community health clinics offering low-cost or free testing. Many organizations focus on reaching underserved populations, ensuring that all individuals have access to the sexual health services they need.

The Takeaway: Own Your Health and Pleasure

As Dr. Matthews and Mathews discussed, owning one's sexual health is not just about avoiding problems but about actively seeking pleasure, feeling good, and enhancing intimacy. Whether it's choosing the proper lubricant, fostering open communication in relationships, or regularly testing for STIs, everyone deserves to feel empowered in their sexual experiences.

Breaking through the taboos surrounding sexual wellness and health is essential for both women and men, ensuring that pleasure and health are prioritized in equal measure. So, take ownership—explore, communicate, and, most importantly, enjoy the journey of sexual wellness.

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