TO THE GIRL WHO HAS NO IDEA WHAT SHE’S DOING WITH HER LIFE: JOIN THE CLUB

If you're like me you’ve always had a plan. I don’t mean, a plan like, “I want to be married and open my own company and eventually have kids.” I mean “I want to know what I am going to have for breakfast a week from today type of plan.” My entire notes app is full of to do lists, goals, daily reminders, etc. I thought if I planned enough I could control what happened to me and when it happened. OH BABY, was I in for a rude awakening. 

We live in a society that uses academics or work as a measurement of success. We somehow have put labels on ages we need to graduate, get a job, start a family, move out, etc. We are wired to think we need to have our entire life planned out by the age of 25. Bullshit. You can change your career path at the age of 55, you can quit your job and travel the world, you can open your own business. You don’t have to know right now. I’ll let you in on a secret. Those people who look like they have their shit together 24/7 don’t. We are just all REALLY good actors. 

You can try to control your life as much as you want, but that will only lead you to disappointment. Life is always changing and it's not going to stop just because something is an inconvenience to you. You have to change your mindset. You have to learn to roll with punches. When something doesn’t go the way you expected it to, take a second, feel the emotions, and keep on going. Not knowing is part of the adventure. Mistakes teach you to lessons. Missed opportunities lead to new ones. 

I used to think I knew exactly what I wanted to do with my life. I knew who my friends would be, I knew my dream career, I knew where I wanted to go to college. I knew at what age I would move to a New City. Guess what. None of that happened. I ended up at a different college, I realize half of my “friends” weren’t real. I changed the industry I wanted to work in. And guess what, nothing bad happened. The sun still came up in the morning. The world is still spinning. 

If I had the life I thought I wanted 5 years ago, I would be miserable. We aren’t meant to know what the future holds for us. The unknown is what makes life exciting. We grow and as we grow our plans change. 

Heres what Ive realized and it might sound dark and twisted but hear me out. None of us are getting out alive. Now, I KNOW that sounds but but if you think about it, isn’t it kind of invigorating. If you take a step back and really think about the fact that nothing in life is really that deep, it makes accepting the unknown a LOT easier. Admit it. You don’t know what your doing with your life. Join the club baby.