Finding Love as a Boss Lady

Finding love in this generation comes with many challenges, it does bottle down to how much time we are willing to invest and care for others. I’ve been running my business full-time for over four years. Over the years I invested in myself, I worked on my business, and I also worked on what made me happy and what didn’t. Over time I fell in love, so deeply and hard. I let myself be free, and take on whatever was going to happen. Now I am left solo again, and whilst it is one of the hardest things I feel like I’ve gone through it’s reminded me that finding love as a boss lady isn’t easy. 

Not Everyone Will Be as Ready as You Are

There is something that men find attractive with woman who have their shit together. And of course, why wouldn’t they? They go along for the ride, and convince themselves that they too want to the same things, that they are willing and able to try to make this relationship work. But in the end, even if you try to help their career, help them grow, they will never be on the same level as you if they don’t feel what you feel inside about yourself. Forget that you’re a boss lady, I am talking more about how you know who you are inside. That is how you became a boss. This is what they need to have, that ability to be strong, know who they are before they step into your lives. 


It’s Ok To Be Wreck-Less In Love 

They say love makes the world go round, it’s completely true. It does, you see you can run the most successful business in the world, but if you don’t have someone to share it with, it becomes a little less important how successful you are. Well, that’s for me anyway, it may not be the case for you. So let yourself fall in love, move to another country, do what makes you happy at the time. In the end, the choices that you make are yours to own. Nobody can take those choices away from you. And if in time you feel like you’ve made a mistake. Then just move on, I say this so easily to you now but its true. Love is to never be regretted, it’s what you take away from that experience that makes it that much more special. In saying that give your heart to those who truly deserve it, to those who understand you and are willing to show up for you. Someone who supports your dreams and your business and wants to grow together with you. 

Loving Yourself With Or Without Them

When I say finding love as a boss lady, I don’t just mean with a partner. I mean within yourself too. So often I feel like as woman we give up everything for love, and that’s not a bad thing either. But balancing those boss lady vibes with your love life is a challenge within yourselves. I can attest to this, even just recently it was so hard for me to get out of bed, to eat anything, to socialize, let alone get my butt on my laptop and work without crying. But you’ll pick yourself up, you’ll love yourself again and this will take time. Only you can make yourself better. This goes for when you’re in a relationship too, make sure you keep time for yourself. That your business doesn’t tarnish because of it, stay who you are and make sure you’re able to run your business your own way. It’s what will make the relationship stronger and of course you yourself. You will feel like yourself again and you will cherish those moments. I feel grateful that looking back, I did achieve all my goals in terms of my business, that I did make sure I hit my targets and that I progressed. There was no way that even if I entered a relationship that anything would change that. And that helps with loving yourself, because if you love yourself enough to give part of you away, you can also love yourself enough to want to grow without compromising. 


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